Just A Man: George Hodos

By Staff Writer

Say hello to George Hodos, star on the rise, who oozes confidence, talent, and sensuality. Known as “The Voice” in his native country Russia, this singing sensation soared to stardom with the release of his debut album, which was aptly titled “The Voice.” George’s single “Where Do I Go” landed him on the top of the Russian charts making him a recognizable talent with a sultry sound all his own.

Having dominated the Russian market, George Hodos has now focused his attention on the United States with the release of his new album “George Hodos- Just A Man.” George’s first single off his album titled, “Just A Man,” features Snoop Dogg and will be released May 4th. The song has already topped radio charts appearing on Billboard’s Mike Bordes Sprint Radio Alltel Playlist, Nextmusic Charts, and is currently #32 on Billboards Promo-only Chart.

He may be “just a man” but we think this Russian star has something more than meets the eye. Check out what George had to say about his new album and the women that have been an inspiration in his life.

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Dating 101 for Singles, Married Couples and Divorcees

By Rae Saeed, Editor

‘He loves me, he loves me not. He could like me but love me not. What should I do to make him love me? Should I have to make him at least like me?’

The dating game is one of mankind’s most exciting activities. The one thing that has rules that aren’t always abided by. Rules like not cheating on the one you’re seeing. There are those who are arrogant enough to attempt to around the ‘no cheating’ rule on a technicality (ex: relationship is not exclusive, therefore not cheating). Sometime’s it lasts forever, more often there are broken hearts. Either way, there’s no chance of getting into the dating game without getting hurt or hurting someone else.

Dating is divided into three categories. There’s singles dating, married couples who date and the most awkward, dating for divorcees.

Singles: Where to meet and greet?
Well there’s the bar scene, or meeting through a friend. However, in today’s day and age the most popular form of meeting someone is through dating sites.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Sawyer Schlaepfer gives his slant on the subject.
“Take the time to get to know each other online before phoning or meeting. When you meet find a coffee shop or other public place–perhaps a tennis court if that is an interest. Plan something to go to afterwards so you don’t feel “stuck” if you don’t hit it off.”

In Sawyer’s experience, people are more apt to find the right person online than random meeting in clubs or bars. According to the PhD, certain online sites help you know more about someone before you meet than you might learn in several dates. Special interest groups are also a good way to meet: Skiing, tennis, church, Sierra Singles, Parents Without Partners, etc. For those who are serious about finding true love through unconventional methods, EHarmony would be the right way to go. Think about it.

Author and relationship educator Roland Hinds feels it’s best to meet someone by visiting places that person’s interested in,

“This way you are meeting people who may have similar interest to you. If you are not a drinker, it may not be in your best interest to go to a bar a club. A good place to meet people would be at a playhouse, concert (Spoken Word, Jazz or Classical), museum, or at a mutual friends home. You may find that you have something in common with a friend’s mutual friend, co-worker and the like.”

Founder of his own dating site DatingRevolution.com, Ross Felix, agrees.
“Attend events that you’ll enjoy. Whether it’s wine tasting, co-ed sports leagues, or a cooking class, sign up for activities where you’ll have fun — and have the opportunity to meet potential dates. Plus, if you’re having fun — you’re infinitely more approachable. Finally, considering you’re both participating in the event, there’s an instant ice-breaker,” Felix suggests.

First Date Faux pas:
In Hinds book, Are You The Right One For Me? Whose Choice Is It Anyway? It discusses the importance of communication.
“Instead of listening carefully, some people talk too much. They don’t allow the person a chance to say much about them so they can make an informed decision about the person. The answer is take time to hear what your date is saying, so you can look for the consistency later. If there is a bunch of inconsistencies, this may not be the one for you. I refer to this as the 4 C’s of a Relationship.”

Number one mistake to avoid, putting out on the first date.
Sawyer suggests: to build up friendship and trust before sex, advice any self-respecting person would point out. The purpose of a first date is to get to know each other so the activity needs to allow for that. A hike or restaurant is better than a movie–so you can talk.

“How to tell sincerity?” Dr.Sawyer says, is to talk about your family and ask about his. Listen carefully for values. Let him know you want to know his goals and interests. Pay attention to what that information says about him. Pay attention to what his friends say about him and how others treat him.

“A woman should “keep her guard up” until she knows enough about him to trust him and until she knows him as a friend. It is helpful to know his friends and members of his family. This takes time.”

When getting to know a guy, as woman do not be afraid to withhold sex or anything else to physical. If he’s understanding and patient enough to wait to take it to the next level, good news, he could be a keeper! If he starts complaining or pressures you in any way, there’s the answer. He’s a pig who should seek out his “truffles” elsewhere.

Married Dating:
Dr.Sawyer suggests for married couples to go on one date every week, if time permits. If not a date, at least a special dinner at home or other time together without distractions is essential. Couples with children are challenged to use their ingenuity to plan special times–as simple as a walk or as complicated as a weekend away. Marriage should allow for enjoyable times as a couple.

Arrange for someone to watch your kids while heading out to dinner and dessert. Or take a trip as a family, while sharing an intimate picnic in the park, the kids can play amongst themselves.

“Some married couples have not dated for so long a dinner alone together can be an exciting and romantic event, especially if they don’t talk about problems. Quality time together is an essential ingredient for keeping romance alive in a marriage.”

Whether it’s work or the responsibility of children, dating should always be an activity married couples participate in.

According to motivational speaker, Bert Martinez, never stop dating, even when married.
“Never ever stop dating. Money or time or kids should never stop you from dating. If you’re married and your not dating your marriage is at risk. As a result of not dating your sex life will suffer, the marriage will be less fulfilling. So never stop dating.”

Bert’s quick tips:
• Take turns on who plans the date.
• Try different things, just to try it. Dance classes, art, yoga, rock climbing, and just try different things.
• Dress for success; stop dressing like your looks don’t matter because they do. By dressing up or at least dressing nice you speak volumes about your spouse. Old baggy clothes aren’t not dating attire. Your spouse will want to dress better too.
• Stay as fit as possible - Staying fit helps you feel younger and sexier and How You Feel is More Important Than What You Know. You know your 40 or 50 or 60 but if You feel young your entire marriage Feels the benefits.

Published author of The Marriage Manual (www.themarriagemanual.com) Laurie Woodard insists that both parties must initiate re-establishing the spark in a marriage.

“I think that knowing the emotional needs of each partner is key. Make sure each partner is catered to accordingly. Sometimes it is easy to forget, but just doing easy things that turn on the other person can reap huge benefits.”

According to Woodward, The Marriage Manual is a very short read and very male friendly! It gives you a clear understanding of just what men and women need.

For men it shows them how to make their wives feel beautiful, worthy and needed, with little or no money. For women it shows them that their man feels love in different ways. Both partners are thus made fully aware of each other’s behaviors before it has a chance to drive them apart.

Dating for divorcees: returning to the jungle
A formerly divorced Dr.Sawyer presents the most concern regarding divorced daters and that is divorced people with children.

“Yes, children certainly present a challenge to someone dating, especially if kids are small and babysitters are required. Older children may resent a parent dating and there is concern about how his/her dating will impact the children if/when they meet this new person. The advantage to being divorced and sharing custody may be every other weekend the other parent has the kids.

Sawyer feels that divorcees may be especially vulnerable and should be careful until they have spent enough time getting used to being single and feeling secure. Get advice from other singles you trust. Start with singles group activities.

“In my experience most divorcees who date are eager to meet someone to marry though they may not admit it even to themselves for a time. Healing from a divorce takes time.”

It is hard for most divorcees to start dating if they have been with a partner a long time unless they initiated the divorce and hence, want to meet someone who satisfies them better. Some suddenly single people don’t see themselves as desirable in a dating world or have too many other interests.

Tonja Evetts Weimer, author, Thriving After Divorce: Transforming your life when a relationship ends agrees.
Weimer feels it’s understandable Most people have responsibilities, whether it’s kids, parents, or another family member or friend who needs help. Juggling a schedule to meet the needs of others as well as having a vibrant personal life can be a challenge. Each situation is different, requiring creative skills and the ability to find the “right” balance.

“Ultimately, it is the attitude with which you approach any situation that determines the value and satisfaction you get out of it.”

Give yourself time to heal:
“Get your foundational bricks under you, such as finances, career, health, hobbies, and friends. They may not all be in place at the same time; a plan needs to be implemented in order to bring you to your goals. Why? Because when one is vulnerable in any of these areas, they may be inclined to “settle” for someone, or project onto another into what you want him to be. This leads to another relationship crisis,” Weimer adds.

It’s challenging in all transitions, especially for divorcees to return to the dating pool. However, that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. When anyone is ready to open their heart to someone again, it can be done.

Another question comes to mind. Are most previously divorced people therefore never open to marriage again?
“I think it is easy to get stuck in a negative belief, letting your past experience,( as well as the world around you,) dictate what divorce is for you. The challenge is to use this moment to redefine yourself, look closely at what you have learned from your relationship experience, and what kind of life you want to reach for.”

Universally, Weimer understands that everyone wants to love and be loved. You may try and stay away from it, but the longing remains. Instead of resisting relationships of commitment, take a look at what was missing with your ex. Did you want more love? How can you love yourself more? Did you lose trust in your spouse? In what ways can you learn to trust yourself better? If you give yourself what was missing in your past, you may find that you are more open and emotionally available to new people.

For more information on the do’s and don’ts of dating for singles, married couples and divorcees, readers can refer to the websites listed below:

Ross Felix: www.DatingRevolution.com
Tonja Evetts Weimer: www.tonjaweimer.com
Sawyer Schlaepfer: tracie@camarriage.com
Roland Hinds: truvueradio@aim.com
Laurie Woodard: www.themarriagemanual.com
Ross Felix: www.DatingRevolution.com
Tonja Evetts Weimer: www.tonjaweimer.com

Men Who Can’t Commit: Why Men Run From Relationships

By Priya Ramsingh

Why does the c-word send some guys running for shelter? This enigmatic question has baffled women for centuries as they try to understand the commitment phobic man.

For generations, men have been portrayed as naturally non-committal. Television sitcoms display worn out men slouched in bars with buddies, trying to steal a sane moment from nagging wives or clingy girlfriends.

While these parodies may appear funny, they hint that women are responsible for pushing men to the brink of commitment phobia. Perhaps if women loosened the chains a tad, men could easily welcome relationships into their arms.

If it were only that simple.

What is Fear of Commitment?

The male fear of commitment stems from a greater issue.

The Real Reasons Men Commit, is a book written by psychologist Joel D. Block and Kimberley Dawn Neuman, a writer who’s experienced the dating scene. According to the book, commitment fears are actually issues of ‘vulnera-phobia’ or the fear of vulnerability.

According to this theory, vulnerable literally means “able to be wounded” and in the language of the male, this means weakness.

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Television as a Babysitter is Not Always Bad

By Tina Todorovich Toler

Before I had children, I always knew I would never use the television as a babysitter. My children were going to be raised by me and I would not lower my standards and stick my child in front of a television so I could have a few moments of time. This was an utterly non-negotiable.

When I mentioned my thoughts to my friends who had children, they looked at me with disbelief. They did not understand how strong my conviction on this subject was. Maybe they had times they felt they needed the time, but I knew I would be different. Popping a child down in front of a children’s show, without sitting with them and discussing it, was along the lines of abuse as far as I was concerned.

My first year or so, I followed this rule. My oldest daughter was a joy and was very easy to care for. She stayed out of trouble, well mostly, and I loved spending the time with her. I did not work so I had time to do my work with her walking behind me chattering away. All was well.

Then, when she was eighteen months, I found myself pregnant with my second child. The pregnancy was nothing like my first. I stayed sick constantly and could not get enough sleep. The first months were torture for me. Emily was awake early, and although she took regular naps, it wasn’t enough rest for me.

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10 Life Lessons Learned from Movies

By Maryanne Curran

Everyday, millions of people sit in darkened theaters watching great movies. Movies entertain us or make us laugh or cry. With sensational special effects, riveting musical scores, and charismatic actors, quite simply, movies are cinematic magic.

On very rare occasions, movies inspire us with their poignant delivery of simple lines of dialog. Phrases that become part of our culture. Words that grab our hearts and minds. Sentences that give us hope and comfort.

Clever words spoken by Tom Hanks, Ellen Degeneres, or Will Smith in a movie are not magic bullets. But in their own way, they provide valuable life lessons.

“Mama always said life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” (“Forrest Gump”) Simple words uttered by a simple man – but true nonetheless. Everyday, you make dozens of choices. Some choices are sweet – while others are crunchy. But that’s what is so great about life. It’s an adventure filled with peaks and valleys. There are no guarantees that everything in your life will be as sweet as a box of chocolates – but won’t it be delicious sampling what’s in your box.

“Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming.” (“Finding Nemo”) When the stress of juggling job, family, and your life is overwhelming, it’s best not to think about the number of demands on your time. Take a deep breath and just keep swimming. Your brain can only process so many tasks at one time. Take one thing at a time and you’ll get through it.

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MAREE MCRAE: It hasn’t been a breeze

Meet Maree McRae- singer, songwriter, and best of all, a loving mother.

After working as lead singer and multi-instrumentalist for one of the Rocky Mountain region’s most sought after acts Cadillac Ranch, Maree McRae took a solo creative venture and released her successful debut project “I Won’t Settle for Less.” The album gave her the recognition she deserved as a remarkable singer/songwriter and her debut album quickly made its mark on the reputable National Gavin’s Top 40 Americana Radio Chart, gaining her acclaim and top awards as an insightful and melodic artist. Due to all of her newfound success, McRae was approached with an offer to go on the road and tour. It was then that she had to make a big career decision.

After many heart wrenching years of continual infections, McRae’s son Stephen was diagnosed with CVID. CVID is a disease that affects the immune system, making it hard for one’s body to fight off infections. McRae was faced with the harsh reality that she could not leave her son, nor could she bring him on the road with her when he was ill. She knew in her heart that she needed to take a break from her music career to stay home with her son. Although after all the recognition she had received, it was a tough decision to make, McRae says now, she does not regret it one bit. Going through the illness together with her son has only strengthened their bond. Her son’s illness has put life into perspective for her and she is able to enjoy every moment she has with her friends, family, and her music.

What’s great is that after some time, McRae was able to get back in the studio, to work on her highly anticipated sophomore release, “Urgency,” after multi-platinum producer, Wyatt Easterling (head of A&R for Atlantic Records) heard McRae’s new writing, and offered her the opportunity to record in Nashville with triple Grammy award-winning engineer, Mark Capps. Her new album’s 12 original tracks maintain the truthful resonance that echoes a variety of styles from Americana/Folk Pop to Adult Contemporary. McRae self-composed all tracks, and the album is filled with her trademark, memorable melodies and lyrics from the soul.
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Latino Hunk - Luis Arrieta

Often compared to Shia LeBeouf here in the US, Latino heartthrob Luis Arrieta has been carving his way through the heart of the Mexican entertainment industry with leading roles in top Mexican films over the past five years.

With four films to be released in 2009, including “Love Equation,” “Paradas Continuas,” “Borderline” and 20th Century Fox’s highly anticipated film “Dragonball Evolution,” Luis Arrieta is set to become the next Mexican star to capture the hearts of audiences across the US. In “Dragonball Evolution,” Luis plays Weaver, a nerdy guy who knows all the answers.

In addition to his US release of Dragonball Evolution, Luis is busy filming the Disney film “Sin Ella” for Latin America in which he plays the lead character of “Andi.” Luis is diverse and multitalented in not only acting, but in writing and producing as well. He is currently working on making his writing and producing debut in his film, “Antes Del Invierno,” which is set for pre-production in late 2009.
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3 Questions for “Hollywood” Hamilton

Move over Ryan Seacrest; Sean “Hollywood” Hamilton’s taking over. For the past 30 years, Sean “Hollywood” Hamilton has been one of the most recognizable names in radio from coast-to-coast. He has hosted shows at Z-100 and KTU in New York, and KIIS FM in Los Angeles, while establishing a legion of fans and admirers within the music industry, leading all his shows to top ratings in a relatively short amount of time.

Today, Sean hosts three radio shows; Hollywood Hamilton’s Weekend Top 30, which is listened to by whopping 5.7 million people every weekend in over 200 cities throughout America and around the world; REMIX Top40, a nightclub radio dance show that airs on Friday and Saturday nights in some of the hottest party cities: Philadelphia, Boston, San Francisco, and Miami; and 104.3 MYfm, which is exclusive to those living in Los Angeles, airing on weekdays from 3-7 p.m. Impressively, Sean is Clear Channel’s only (music) talent to be heard on both coasts during the afternoon drive.

One would think that hosting three radio shows would take up all of one’s time, but not Sean. On his off time away from the radio industry, Sean’s production company Mischief Media Entertainment has directed and produced television projects. He was also the mind behind the original “Lovelines,” which launched into the extremely popular radio show that evolved into a 15 year syndicated success as well an MTV show starring Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew. In addition, Sean has done some time acting as spokesman/spokesmodel for many of today’s most successful products including Sprint “Muziq” Phone, Drakkar Cologne, Doritos Chips, M&Ms, Levis, Diet Pepsi and Bank of America. He is currently in production and co-starring in a new film called “Hyenas.” This film is scheduled for release in late 2009 and is an Entertainment LAB production.

We got to ask this radio legend what he thinks about… what else? Women stuff!
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