‘He loves me, he loves me not. He could like me but love me not. What should I do to make him love me? Should I have to make him at least like me?’

The dating game is one of mankind’s most exciting activities. The one thing that has rules that aren’t always abided by. Rules like not cheating on the one you’re seeing. There are those who are arrogant enough to attempt to around the ‘no cheating’ rule on a technicality (ex: relationship is not exclusive, therefore not cheating). Sometime’s it lasts forever, more often there are broken hearts. Either way, there’s no chance of getting into the dating game without getting hurt or hurting someone else.

Dating is divided into three categories. There’s singles dating, married couples who date and the most awkward, dating for divorcees.

Singles: Where to meet and greet?
Well there’s the bar scene, or meeting through a friend. However, in today’s day and age the most popular form of meeting someone is through dating sites.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Sawyer Schlaepfer gives his slant on the subject.
“Take the time to get to know each other online before phoning or meeting. When you meet find a coffee shop or other public place–perhaps a tennis court if that is an interest. Plan something to go to afterwards so you don’t feel “stuck” if you don’t hit it off.”

In Sawyer’s experience, people are more apt to find the right person online than random meeting in clubs or bars. According to the PhD, certain online sites help you know more about someone before you meet than you might learn in several dates. Special interest groups are also a good way to meet: Skiing, tennis, church, Sierra Singles, Parents Without Partners, etc. For those who are serious about finding true love through unconventional methods, EHarmony would be the right way to go. Think about it.

Author and relationship educator Roland Hinds feels it’s best to meet someone by visiting places that person’s interested in,

“This way you are meeting people who may have similar interest to you. If you are not a drinker, it may not be in your best interest to go to a bar a club. A good place to meet people would be at a playhouse, concert (Spoken Word, Jazz or Classical), museum, or at a mutual friends home. You may find that you have something in common with a friend’s mutual friend, co-worker and the like.”

Founder of his own dating site DatingRevolution.com, Ross Felix, agrees.
“Attend events that you’ll enjoy. Whether it’s wine tasting, co-ed sports leagues, or a cooking class, sign up for activities where you’ll have fun — and have the opportunity to meet potential dates. Plus, if you’re having fun — you’re infinitely more approachable. Finally, considering you’re both participating in the event, there’s an instant ice-breaker,” Felix suggests.

First Date Faux pas:
In Hinds book, Are You The Right One For Me? Whose Choice Is It Anyway? It discusses the importance of communication.
“Instead of listening carefully, some people talk too much. They don’t allow the person a chance to say much about them so they can make an informed decision about the person. The answer is take time to hear what your date is saying, so you can look for the consistency later. If there is a bunch of inconsistencies, this may not be the one for you. I refer to this as the 4 C’s of a Relationship.”

Number one mistake to avoid, putting out on the first date.
Sawyer suggests: to build up friendship and trust before sex, advice any self-respecting person would point out. The purpose of a first date is to get to know each other so the activity needs to allow for that. A hike or restaurant is better than a movie–so you can talk.

“How to tell sincerity?” Dr.Sawyer says, is to talk about your family and ask about his. Listen carefully for values. Let him know you want to know his goals and interests. Pay attention to what that information says about him. Pay attention to what his friends say about him and how others treat him.

“A woman should “keep her guard up” until she knows enough about him to trust him and until she knows him as a friend. It is helpful to know his friends and members of his family. This takes time.”

When getting to know a guy, as woman do not be afraid to withhold sex or anything else to physical. If he’s understanding and patient enough to wait to take it to the next level, good news, he could be a keeper! If he starts complaining or pressures you in any way, there’s the answer. He’s a pig who should seek out his “truffles” elsewhere.

Married Dating:
Dr.Sawyer suggests for married couples to go on one date every week, if time permits. If not a date, at least a special dinner at home or other time together without distractions is essential. Couples with children are challenged to use their ingenuity to plan special times–as simple as a walk or as complicated as a weekend away. Marriage should allow for enjoyable times as a couple.

Arrange for someone to watch your kids while heading out to dinner and dessert. Or take a trip as a family, while sharing an intimate picnic in the park, the kids can play amongst themselves.

“Some married couples have not dated for so long a dinner alone together can be an exciting and romantic event, especially if they don’t talk about problems. Quality time together is an essential ingredient for keeping romance alive in a marriage.”

Whether it’s work or the responsibility of children, dating should always be an activity married couples participate in.

According to motivational speaker, Bert Martinez, never stop dating, even when married.
“Never ever stop dating. Money or time or kids should never stop you from dating. If you’re married and your not dating your marriage is at risk. As a result of not dating your sex life will suffer, the marriage will be less fulfilling. So never stop dating.”

Bert’s quick tips:
• Take turns on who plans the date.
• Try different things, just to try it. Dance classes, art, yoga, rock climbing, and just try different things.
• Dress for success; stop dressing like your looks don’t matter because they do. By dressing up or at least dressing nice you speak volumes about your spouse. Old baggy clothes aren’t not dating attire. Your spouse will want to dress better too.
• Stay as fit as possible - Staying fit helps you feel younger and sexier and How You Feel is More Important Than What You Know. You know your 40 or 50 or 60 but if You feel young your entire marriage Feels the benefits.

Published author of The Marriage Manual (www.themarriagemanual.com) Laurie Woodard insists that both parties must initiate re-establishing the spark in a marriage.

“I think that knowing the emotional needs of each partner is key. Make sure each partner is catered to accordingly. Sometimes it is easy to forget, but just doing easy things that turn on the other person can reap huge benefits.”

According to Woodward, The Marriage Manual is a very short read and very male friendly! It gives you a clear understanding of just what men and women need.

For men it shows them how to make their wives feel beautiful, worthy and needed, with little or no money. For women it shows them that their man feels love in different ways. Both partners are thus made fully aware of each other’s behaviors before it has a chance to drive them apart.

Dating for divorcees: returning to the jungle
A formerly divorced Dr.Sawyer presents the most concern regarding divorced daters and that is divorced people with children.

“Yes, children certainly present a challenge to someone dating, especially if kids are small and babysitters are required. Older children may resent a parent dating and there is concern about how his/her dating will impact the children if/when they meet this new person. The advantage to being divorced and sharing custody may be every other weekend the other parent has the kids.

Sawyer feels that divorcees may be especially vulnerable and should be careful until they have spent enough time getting used to being single and feeling secure. Get advice from other singles you trust. Start with singles group activities.

“In my experience most divorcees who date are eager to meet someone to marry though they may not admit it even to themselves for a time. Healing from a divorce takes time.”

It is hard for most divorcees to start dating if they have been with a partner a long time unless they initiated the divorce and hence, want to meet someone who satisfies them better. Some suddenly single people don’t see themselves as desirable in a dating world or have too many other interests.

Tonja Evetts Weimer, author, Thriving After Divorce: Transforming your life when a relationship ends agrees.
Weimer feels it’s understandable Most people have responsibilities, whether it’s kids, parents, or another family member or friend who needs help. Juggling a schedule to meet the needs of others as well as having a vibrant personal life can be a challenge. Each situation is different, requiring creative skills and the ability to find the “right” balance.

“Ultimately, it is the attitude with which you approach any situation that determines the value and satisfaction you get out of it.”

Give yourself time to heal:
“Get your foundational bricks under you, such as finances, career, health, hobbies, and friends. They may not all be in place at the same time; a plan needs to be implemented in order to bring you to your goals. Why? Because when one is vulnerable in any of these areas, they may be inclined to “settle” for someone, or project onto another into what you want him to be. This leads to another relationship crisis,” Weimer adds.

It’s challenging in all transitions, especially for divorcees to return to the dating pool. However, that doesn’t mean it can’t be done. When anyone is ready to open their heart to someone again, it can be done.

Another question comes to mind. Are most previously divorced people therefore never open to marriage again?
“I think it is easy to get stuck in a negative belief, letting your past experience,( as well as the world around you,) dictate what divorce is for you. The challenge is to use this moment to redefine yourself, look closely at what you have learned from your relationship experience, and what kind of life you want to reach for.”

Universally, Weimer understands that everyone wants to love and be loved. You may try and stay away from it, but the longing remains. Instead of resisting relationships of commitment, take a look at what was missing with your ex. Did you want more love? How can you love yourself more? Did you lose trust in your spouse? In what ways can you learn to trust yourself better? If you give yourself what was missing in your past, you may find that you are more open and emotionally available to new people.

For more information on the do’s and don’ts of dating for singles, married couples and divorcees, readers can refer to the websites listed below:

Ross Felix: www.DatingRevolution.com
Tonja Evetts Weimer: www.tonjaweimer.com
Sawyer Schlaepfer: tracie@camarriage.com
Roland Hinds: truvueradio@aim.com
Laurie Woodard: www.themarriagemanual.com
Ross Felix: www.DatingRevolution.com
Tonja Evetts Weimer: www.tonjaweimer.com

Repatriation is a subject that is getting increased attention. Many people that are faced with repatriating to either their home country, or the one they have lived in the longest, assume that this transition will be easy. After all, you know the language, the country, your friends and family will be there.

The truth is just the opposite. While you have been away, you have gone through changes. The place you’re returning to has also changed – perhaps different stores, different people, etc. Failure to understand this typically leads to a shock worse than the one you experience when expatriating. Again, the assumption that you’ll easily fit in will be deeply challenged, which could quickly lead to depression.

Beyond the aspects of packing, moving, and logistics, here are a few tips of what to prepare for during the repatriating experience -

1. Home may no longer feel like home. Now that you’ve been living in another culture, you have inevitably adapted to it. This means you may have altered your perception on cultural, political, or social issues. You may have developed new habits, or be used to speaking a new language. Perhaps you have been eating dramatically different foods, and discussions have revolved around different topics. So, when you arrive home, and you try to connect with your friends and family there, you will most likely feel an uncomfortable distance as you readjust to being back.

2. Connect with something familiar. The same rules about building a network apply when you go home, and you’ll no doubt want to keep a connection to the place you left behind. Seek out the foreign Embassy, or Consulate from that country that’s nearest to your home, and try to get involved with cultural events, for example, so that your transition is a little less “shocking” and you can stay in touch with the people and trends from that country.

3. Be patient. It’s going to take some time to adjust to being back home. You’ll most likely get in touch quickly with the things you miss, as well as start comparing lifestyles. Some things will be better, some will not. It’s important to understand that the move back home can be harder, in part because you expect everything to be like it was before you left, and you learn that you’ve changed. So, be patient with yourself, and start creating new friends, and activities to ease your transition.

About the Author:
Heather Markel is a Culture Transition Specialist for Culture Transition Coaching. Heather works with Expatriates and their families to manage and overcome the unique set of personal, professional, and social issues that arise following relocation to a new city and/or country. Heather has lived, worked and studied in four countries, and two US States. She speaks six languages. She loves traveling and discovering new friends, and new places. To learn more visit her blog at www.culturetransitionblog.com

© 2009. This article was excerpted with permission from Heather Markel. All reprints must state, “Reprinted with permission by Heather Markel from www.culturetransition.com. Originally published in www.WomensOnlineMagazine.com, March 2010”.

DISCLAIMER: The information and opinions reflected in this article are solely those of the author and do not reflect on the publisher, editor, or editorial staff of Women’s Online Magazine. This article has been written and reviewed by the author. Any errors should be brought to the attention of the author.

Why does the c-word send some guys running for shelter? This enigmatic question has baffled women for centuries as they try to understand the commitment phobic man.

For generations, men have been portrayed as naturally non-committal. Television sitcoms display worn out men slouched in bars with buddies, trying to steal a sane moment from nagging wives or clingy girlfriends.

While these parodies may appear funny, they hint that women are responsible for pushing men to the brink of commitment phobia. Perhaps if women loosened the chains a tad, men could easily welcome relationships into their arms.

If it were only that simple.

What is Fear of Commitment?

The male fear of commitment stems from a greater issue.

The Real Reasons Men Commit, is a book written by psychologist Joel D. Block and Kimberley Dawn Neuman, a writer who’s experienced the dating scene. According to the book, commitment fears are actually issues of ‘vulnera-phobia’ or the fear of vulnerability.

According to this theory, vulnerable literally means “able to be wounded” and in the language of the male, this means weakness.

Men are Supposed to be Strong

Truthfully, should we blame men for not wanting to show weakness? For as long as the male species has been in existence, they’ve been conditioned to be strong.

Although there are many men who have no problem shedding tears in public, the commitment-phobic man isn’t that guy. The very idea of exposing weaknesses to another person can be a scary concept.

The Non-Marrying Kind

There are many happily married men who have opened their hearts and accepted vulnerability as part of a relationship. But according to Block and Neuman, a study by Rutgers University called The National Marriage Project, 2009, finds 22 per cent of men were deemed the ‘non-marrying kind’.

Marriage Doesn’t Mean Commitment

On the flip side, some men who exhibit non-committal characteristics will actually take the trip down the aisle. But according to Block and Neuman, they will never commit their heart.

Marrying for convenience is not so uncommon. Many couples marry for children, a comfortable home and stability. But closeness and intimacy are not part of the deal. A situation like this one allows the commitment phobic man to live up to social expectations while still keeping himself free from vulnerability.

Social Pressures and Easy Sex

It’s fair to say that for years, society had certain expectations of an acceptable lifestyle. When men and women reached a certain age, marriage was the traditional step and then came the children. Sex on a regular basis was part of a commitment. Says Block and Neuman, “Once upon a time, the only way to get a woman into bed was by putting a ring on her finger.”

Clearly, this isn’t the norm anymore. So for men who shun commitment, today’s single lifestyle is a welcome playground.

How to Spot the Commitment Phobic Man

Although it’s hard to provide a list that applies to all men, here are a few red flag items to watch out for:

• He’s MIA (missing in action) when you need him
• He doesn’t take responsibility for his problems and blames others
• He makes you feel inadequate
• He’s unwilling to communicate and talk about issues
• He still lives like a student
• He doesn’t have strong values or standards
• You feel a sense of anxiety or insecurity about his feelings for you

If you experience most of the above, chances are you’re dating someone who is afraid of commitment.

What To Do If Your Guy Won’t Commit

Don’t try and change him. If he’s really commitment phobic, he will need counseling and some time to get himself together. Waiting for him is not a good idea either because he will have to heal himself emotionally before bringing someone into his life. Remember, changing a life pattern is not easy.

The best course of action you can take is to walk away and look for a relationship that meets your needs.

About the Author
Priya Ramsingh is a professional business communicator and writer. She is the owner of Arka Communications – www.arkacomm.ca, has a Bachelor’s Degree in English literature from Carleton University and is working towards her Business Communications certificate at Ryerson University.

© March, 2010. This article was excerpted with permission from Priya Ramsingh of www.arkacomm.ca. Permission to reprint is granted by the author. All reprints must state, “Reprinted with permission by Priya Ramsingh. Originally published in www.WomensOnlineMagazine.com, March, 2010 ”.

DISCLAIMER: The information and opinions reflected in this article are solely those of the author and do not reflect on the publisher, editor, or editorial staff of Women’s Online Magazine. This article has been written and reviewed by the author. Any errors should be brought to the attention of the author.

For bedroom windows facing a street, a neighbor’s window, or the common area of an apartment complex, condominium or dorm, adding an adhesive-free privacy film from the Deco Tint collection is an easy and stylish way to protect a child from prying eyes.

Curtains and blinds are all too often left open by children at night when the lights are on. Using these decorative films ensures your child’s privacy while illuminating the room with beautiful stained glass color during the day.

The Deco Tint line is available in 10 child and parent pleasing colors that look like stained glass. Each color is available in a Privacy and See-Thru version (used where privacy is not a concern, but the desire for a unique, colorful window is). The decision to cover just part or all of a window with privacy film depends on the proximity of surrounding buildings and homes, pedestrian and vehicle traffic nearby, window size, etc.

Made by Wallpaper For Windows of Cocoa, Fla., Deco Tint films are easy to apply, easy to clean, will look great for years, and can be removed in seconds when it is time to redecorate. Deco Tints filter UV rays, save energy (glass is cooler in summer/warmer in winter) and are removable and reusable.

Take a security-conscious look out of your child’s bedroom window, because what you can see is what or who can look into your child’s room. If you feel more privacy is prudent or would like to decorate the glass with see-through color, Deco Tints are a stylish solution that provide great value for your decorating dollar.

For more information visit: www.wallpaperforwindows.com or call 800-320-8439.

Brand name fashion and vintage can cost the name if found at the right place. Who says that a beautiful dress has to cost more than your rent? A gorgeous pair of leather boots does not have to fuse person’s toes together. Flat or two-inch high heels can still count as fashionable.

Source: GoodHousekeeping.com

Fashion can also help the environment. Etsy shop owner Caroline Darkey sells up-cycled cardigans.
“For less than $30, my customers receive a rescued thrift sweater that has been given a second chance at charm. I embellish the sweaters with special details, including vintage and handmade trims,” said Darkey.

According to Darkey, The sweaters are very similar to the classic styles being sold by J Crew, Ann Taylor and other major clothing chains. Readers can see the attached a link to her Etsy shop to get an idea of how women keep in with current styles, all while maintaining budget and being green: www.carolinejoyhome.etsy.com.

Of course there is the occasional awkward moment where someone notices something on your outfit that shouldn’t be showing. Creator and owner of Tuk-its “ The cure for the hanger loop hang” Adrianne Denise created an accessory to correct this issue.

According to Denise, this transforming accessory prevents garment loops from slipping out of your clothes causing an unsightly appearance.

“My goal is for tweens to seniors everywhere to maintain the neat look they envisioned while wearing their favorite blouse, gown, evening wear, etc. Tuk-its are available online with free shipping for only $6.99,” said Denise.
Interested buyers can arrange for their free sample of Tuk-its by emailing Denise at Tuk-its@clearwire.net and read more about this product on her web page at www.Tuk-its.com.

First Date Jitters? Make him eat his heart out!
It’s always fun to get all dressed up but not so fun when sending the wrong message. Showing too much skin portrays an invitation to an “open house”, not enough skin illustrates someone who is too shy. Image experts give their opinions and advice on the matter.

“First and foremost, you want to wear something you feel comfortable in”.
Tugging at a too short skirt or self-consciously dealing with a top that shows too much cleavage is not what you should be dealing with on a first date,” said Mary Kincaid, Chief Vintage Crusader at Zuburbia.com (an eco-friendly web-based vintage clothing boutique)

Casual Suggestions:
Tugging at a too short skirt or self-consciously dealing with a top that shows too much cleavage is not what you should be dealing with on a first date.

You can get this at www.Calyso-Celle.com

Dressier Options:
Vintage wrap dresses

Certified Image consultant Margaret Batting suggests that women need to think about how they want to be perceived and dress accordingly.

“If you want to come across as confident, smart and fun, then your clothes need reflect these messages. Wear colors that compliment your natural coloring and bring out your eyes. You’ll be talking a lot on a first date and you want the person focused on your face and what you are saying.” Banning insists on making sure you are comfortable in an outfit that is not frumpy or too loose, meaning that you feel good in clothes that fit well and flatter your shape.

To portray a sexier side of you is a little tricky. Skin should be shown in moderation.

For example, Batting suggest that any woman with great legs should show them off but keep the top half of the body conservative and vise versa.

“If you have great legs, then rock a mini on the bottom half and wear a less revealing top. If you have great arms, wear a top that shows off your arms with a pair it of hot jeans or skinny pants and heals.”
Interested shoppers can refer to Batting’s website for more tips at www.eleve-style.com.

Stella & Dot stylist Tracy Bennett suggests a nice light merino sweater, complimented with a simple blouse and nice jeans or cuffed jeans for a first date. Not too dressy, not too casual.
“If you are going to a nicer place, I would suggest trousers or slacks.”

For the slightly heavier woman:
Bennett insists on not wearing items that are too fitting. Nice jeans with a boot cut or flare would be a good choice. As for the top, it should show little to no pattern and dark in colour, flows in style but not too big.

For the thinner woman:
According to Bennett, a thinner, not so curvy lady looks best with a tunic, slimming jeans and boots. Bennett feels that is look is quite classy, assists in creating height and doesn’t play too much on the thin look, very voluptuous.

As for accessories, readers can check out www.fiveaccessories.com. Founded by Christine Hutchison, Five Accessories has everything from eco-friendly handbags to jewelry that will compliment any outfit at reasonable prices.

Meeting the parents:
It’s definitely not essential to look sexy when meeting the parents. Look and be classy all the way. Look confident, smart, sweet and as innocent as possible.

Depending on the venue, casual or dressy outfits could both come into play. Stylists and image consultants give their tips on this scenario.

Maragaret Batting: “For a casual meeting with the parents you can wear pants, a ruffled or feminine blouse topped with a stylish cardigan and maybe add a belt for interest. If it is a dressier occasion, a dress may be more appropriate. Either way, you want to come across as confident, approachable and friendly. This is not the time to wear revealing clothing. Again you want to come across as comfortable and authentic.”

Mary Kincaid: “When in doubt, it’s probably a good idea to border on the conservative side when it comes to meeting the parents, so stay away from trends. A tailored pair of trousers might make a nicer impression than jeans. A khaki skirt with a crisp white blouse looks pulled together. It still allows you express a bit of personality when you pair the outfit with a vintage scarf, necklace or beaded sweater.”

For additional tops and advice, please refer to the websites listed throughout the article. The experts mentioned can also be contacted through their web pages.

Sources:
Caroline Darkey (www.carolinejoyhome.etsy.com)
Adrianne Denise (www.Tuk-its.com)
Mary Kincaid (www. Zuburbia.com)
Margaret Batting (www.eleve-style.com)
Tracy Bennett (www.stelladot.com/sites/tracybennett)
Christine Hutchison (www.fiveaccessories.com)

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Everyone knows somebody who just can’t get enough of celebrity news, celerity gossip, celebrity on goings, celebrity this celebrity that. Somebody who is constantly ranting about Brangelina, JLo like they are all that matter in this world. They consider these celebrities to be in the same social circle as they that is how bad they obsess over them, well for people like this here are gift ideas that they will go googoogaagaa over.

Find out the celebrity that your friend is most crazy about and get her a relevant autograph. Wondering how are you then Ebay is your answer. Spend a little time looking and you will find it.

Another idea is a collection of DVDs of her favorite movies with her favorite stars; it can be favorite music collection too. You know your friend best so improvise some if you need to.

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Celebrity trend is mostly unaffordable so most of us just get to drool all over their style statement. Faux designer products are as good as the real thing till your star savvy friend knows Jennifer Aniston was wearing it she will love it.

One idea that can never go wrong is purchasing tickets to a special event. It can almost be a dream coming true for your friend. It can be a red carpet event or a movie premiere or a concert backstage party, work a little hard and you will get your hands at the right places.

Most of the celebrity struck people are keen readers of social pages and magazines so a year long subscription is a great idea to keep them logged on to latest happenings and news.

Find out if anywhere around you is a celebrity’s favorite hangout, the information will be hard to find but your friend would be thanking you for the rest of her and yours life.

Celebrities enjoy tell all autobiographies and authors enjoy tell all biographies about celebrities equally. Look up a juicy book doing rounds on the hot book list. Memoirs are a great gift idea and don’t need too much work either.

Celebrity craze is a funny thing for those not affected but for those who have been struck with this craze it is a very serious matter. Hence no matter what gift idea you pick make sure it is not mocking their obsession.

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In the early 70’s I was a child at the age of 12, full of life and heading towards being a full fledged teenager. Full of vigor worrying only of when summer would arrive, what time my favorite shows were on television, when winter was going to come so I could continue figure skating lessons and what I was going to do the very next day.

Little did I know the magnitude of wonderful event that would occur in the summer days ahead. My Grandmother, (Whom we called Nanny) was scheduled to come from Wilcox Pennsylvania to visit with us and along with her she was bringing my cousin Lori Carlson. Since we are the same age and we were close this was going to be fun for the two of us.

Neither had ever been to Minnesota and I was sure the time spent with them was going to be fun and adventurous. My mother Mary Phillips had migrated to Minnesota immediately after high school to continue education and become an airline stewardess. She had met my father when they were both in college which and their relationship became a marriage, thus keeping her in Minnesota.

Oblivious to the itinerary was set of which historic places, tours we would take or people we would visit. I only knew this was going to be a adventure of a life time. Of course at that age I had no idea how these memories would follow me my entire life and be held in my mind through some of the most tumultuous events that would personally occur for me.

On a bright and sunny day Mom loaded us up in the car and off we drove heading towards Minneapolis to see the sites of the beautiful city and tour the Betty Crocker Kitchen’s that were located west of Minneapolis.

The tour consisted of a trip through the plant showing us every step to the processing of the cakes, muffins and breads and then on to the kitchens. The history of the plant was discussed and we were allowed to walk through the model kitchens that were used for contests and promotions.

We received a wonderful bag full of kitchen goodies including a cake mix, recipes, wooden spoons, measuring spoons and sample treats. The tours were discontinued in 1985. It seems such a shame that they have ended for even though I was child the memory is implanted in my mind and others will not experience it.

Our trip moved us through the day and out of the cities towards the west out of Minneapolis 45 miles to the town of Waverly, where Hubert H. Humphrey and his family held residence. We pulled up to the front gate of his beautiful lake home estate only to find him standing in the front yard.

My grandmother and my mother were very excited to see him wave and then he walked towards the fence. My cousin and I peeked our heads out of the window as we had heard them discussing this great man and how famous he was when to our surprise he waved and headed towards us.

He smiled and welcomed us to his home and opened the gate. He came to the car and shook hands with my Grandmother as she and my mother explained how it was such an honor to meet him. He turned towards the back seat where my cousin and me sat and winked at us as he spoke.

He was kind and gracious as could be and leaned on the edge of my Grandmothers open window as he conversed with her. After a few minutes they exchanged goodbyes and as we drove away he smiled and waved, then went back into his yard and closed the gate.

This was the first time I had encountered Hubert H. Humphrey. I did not know it would not be the last time I would encounter him or hear of him after his passing, as over the years I was reminded of that little friendly grandpa type wink from a great man and politician.

That wink, which caused a spark of curiosity that I could not forget and followed me my entire life. I had the pleasure of speaking briefly with him and shaking his hand at a couple political functions in the following years. Watching his career and learning from him as well as watching his famous life until the end.

To look back at career of H.H.H., his time in office not only included 38th Vice President of the United States. He served as a Minnesota State Senator and served as Democratic Majority Whip. He was a founder of the Minnesota Democratic-Farmer-Labor-Party with as the President of the Americans for Democratic Action. He also served as Mayor of Minneapolis Minnesota from 1945 to 1949.

I attended many political functions as well as benefits with my mother over the years, giving me insight. My mother, Mary Elizabeth Phillips is retired President of the A.F.L./C.I.O. Central body Willmar Trades and Labor Union, Retired Vic-President of the local 701 A.F.C.M.E. Union. She served on the State board of A.F.C.M.E. Retiree’s, she is a member of retired A.F.S.M.E Union and she also served on the Private Industry Council Board of the State of Minnesota.

It’s very interesting to me how this meeting with H.H.H. occurred years before my mother’s union career and anything political began to step to the front of our lives. Though Meeting him seemed to be a prelude to how much of our time in our lives was spent in the future.

Hubert H. Humphrey died on January 13th, 1978 of Bladder Cancer. Before he passed he spent his time with his family, on the telephone with old friends and acquaintances and roaming the halls of the hospital visiting others to cheer them up.

He spread cheer where ever he went in life, even to the end. He was a strong man, strong willed, loving, ready and eager to take on any challenge life would hand him. He believed in the United States. He believed that we should never give up and strive to be the best we could be and that everyone deserves an honest and good chance for the great American life. He believed we all deserved a chance to prosper, move forward and persevere. He was and should be an Icon to all generations, including those to come.

This is a man who is missed; history has and will continue to tell most of his story. Many will learn and others remember his attributes which are great, but the man, those of us who have looked into his eyes and shook his hands know of his true strength, will and determination he had for people of United States.

I am thankful to have met this man.

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Would you believe Italian Wedding Soup actually did not originally have anything to do with marriage between a man and woman? It got the term “wedding” from a slight misinterpretation where “wedding” should have been “marriage” and was referring to the blending (or marriage) of the flavors!

When you have Italian wedding soup, you will understand why it was given this term. The base of the soup is chicken broth, but as the flavorful meatballs cook while in the broth, the flavors begin to transform into something utterly wonderful – just like a marriage.

There are various versions of this recipe ranging from my simple recipe below to ones which take 2 days to prepare. Personally, the recipe here tastes better than any Italian wedding soup I’ve had at any restaurant… but you can be the judge when you make it yourself! It is easy and requires basic ingredients.

Ingredients you will need:
1 lb of ground beef or bison meat (Federal law prevents hormone injections into any bison).
1 egg
1 clove of garlic finely chopped
6 cups of chicken broth
3 cups of water
1/3 cup of unseasoned breadcrumbs
4 Tablespoons Romano cheese
1/3 cup chopped fresh parsley
¾ lb. (3/4 of the box) orzo past

Instructions:
1. In a large bowl mix the beef, egg, garlic, breadcrumbs, cheese and parsley to form a ball.
2. Meanwhile, bring the broth and water to boil.
3. Form little meatballs (about ½ inch in size) and drop into the boiling liquid.
4. Maintain a light boil and cook for about 1 hour until the meatballs are fully cooked.
5. Meanwhile, cook the orzo according to package instructions, drain and set aside.
6. When ready to serve, put some orzo in a soup bowl, and then add the soup on top.
7. Sprinkle with extra cheese (optional).
Tip: Reduce the fat content by keeping the soup in the fridge overnight and then easily discarding the hardened fat which solidifies and floats to the top.

This recipe will impress your friends and family. It serves as a great first course or a nice light meal served with salad and glass of red wine. Mangia!

Elizabeth Krause grew up with her Italian family and now enjoys sharing her Italian recipes with friends and family online. Her online recipe box can be viewed at www.simpleitaliancooking.com/recipebox.htm. She writes a weekly newsletter and posts only recipes which are simple because she understands not all good recipes have to be complicated. With a busy schedule to maintain – simple is always a good thing.

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Before I started working in the fashion and public relations’ industries, I felt uncomfortable in social situations, was petrified of meeting and talking to new people, and hated public speaking for many reasons but shyness topped the list. Yet, once I learned effective networking skills, my network of fashion and media contacts exploded.

Networking can be scary especially if you feel uncomfortable in social situations. However, effective networking skills are essential to meeting other individuals, generating good contacts, and building solid and relationships.

When you have a solid network you can rely on, connecting with potential clients, partners, and employees becomes much easier because you don’t have to wait for an awkward introduction. Additionally, the more individuals that view you and your business positively, the more leverage you will have.

Follow these tips to build a strong network:

1. Sincerity is a must. Most business people can smell phoniness from a mile away.

2. Determine your goals and objectives. Before attending any networking event – conference, luncheon, holiday party or any other business or social event, make sure it is for the right reason. Some events are for making contacts, while others are for learning a certain trade or industry. If you are a make up artist, I don’t think you would attend the American Bar Association Mid Winter Conference for Surety and Fidelity.

3. Join as many associations and groups to expand your professional circle. Many groups allow prospective members to preview how groups are organized by sitting in a seminar or attending an event.

4. Offer to volunteer in different organizations and events.

5. While networking, ask questions – who, what, where, when and how as opposed to questions that can answered with a simple “yes” or “no.”

6. By joining different groups and associations, your brand becomes transparent and you become a resource to others. It will also help you become an expert within your industry.

7. If you have a certain person that would like to speak to, make sure you have a clear approach. You don’t want to sound like you have no idea what you are talking about when you open the conversation.

8. Have a clear mission of how you can help networking professionals.

9. Respond quickly and efficiently to referrals. Don’t make others look bad by not delivering results that you promised.

10. Don’t try to sell yourself. Networking is about gaining leverage by building relationships with other professionals within your industry.

11. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Most networking events require business attire. Remember, first impressions are the only impressions that count.

In this day and age, networking is a must. It doesn’t matter whether you are looking to expand your business network or looking for a job, networking is critical to a healthy career. The more resources you have, the more leverage and opportunities will be readily available.

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About the Author:
Kristin Marquet is a savvy media personality, the President of Marquet Media LLC, a full service public relations and marketing firm for the fashion, beauty, and accessory industries located in New York City as well as the Accessory Editor to Stylemom.com magazine. Kristin has written for a variety of business and fashion magazines such as Enterprising Woman magazine, CoutureintheCity.com, and theInsider.com. For more information on how Kristin can help your business get media attention, visit www.marquet-communications.com.

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You must get a handle on your fear and anxiety, as those behaviors will definitely hinder your successful job search and have you spending your limited funds on doctor visits and antidepressant meds. You may be unemployed but you are employable. The key is: regardless of how anxious you feel, not to sound wimpy or act afraid; speak with confidence and act like a winner! Don’t beg; instead sell your value. Selling, promoting and expanding your value are the actions that will lead to re-employment.

The majority of people entering or leaving the workforce today will not be getting a gold watch for twenty-five years of service. In fact, The U.S. Department of Labor has stated that the average employment cycle includes workers having six to seven jobs and three to five career changes. You should be prepared to move on, continue to grow and learn, keep your skills up-to-date and take calculated risks. So be bold, confident and courageous and start interviewing…

Interviewing Strategies:

1) Establish and Sell Your Brand:

What does your personal brand reflect? What do people think of when they hear your name? What does your personal story say about who you are? With a well established brand, your reputation starts to precede you and companies come a calling. You’ve developed great contacts, relationships, experience, and a personal brand. Continue to maximize your good name and good work ethnic while seeking employment. Contact everyone within your social network circle and beyond and request an informational interview, investigate pro bono opportunities with ‘targeted companies’ to showcase your talent to a potential employer risk free. There are many free and inexpensive ways to promote and expand your brand. Seek out writing and speaking opportunities with your alma mater, non-profit organizations and newspaper and magazine editors to share your knowledge. The reach of your brand expands with each speaking engagement and writing assignment.

2) Define Your Experience and Knowledge in Broad Terms:

Using broad terms will open up doors to many different types of careers and industries. Whatever your particular sets of skills, maximize and sell them to targeted companies within many different industries. Jenny Sanford went from the world of investment banking to running her husband’s congressional and gubernatorial political campaigns. They won both. I went from construction management to becoming a motivational speaker and career coach. You must define your experience in broad terms because excellent skills are needed in many industries.

Follow the stimulus money to determine where it has gone and where the next influx of cash will go. Research the following sectors: education, healthcare, technology, green jobs, energy and utilities, transportation and the government. Over one billion dollars have been doled out to wind energy companies. Be smart and knowledgeable. Don’t waste time and energy on industries/companies that are not hiring.

3) Don’t Go in Blind:

Perform due diligence. The first task you must complete is research. Research ‘targeted companies’ that you have interest to identify how your skill, talent and personality will best fit their needs. Based on your research, what can you do for the company? How can you save time, money, improve operations, increase customers or improve its image? Have quantifiable examples of past successes and what you can achieve for them. Read and evaluate their mission statement. Know their philosophy before you arrive.

Remember every interview is about what you offer, want and expect from the employer versus what the employer is looking for, needs, offers and will provide. Make sure you can discuss intelligently and succinctly the needs and wants of the employer and how you can satisfy them.

Steven Greenberg, publisher of Jobs4pinto.com said: “The thing to avoid is thinking by sending out a ton of resumes, you’re looking for a job. You’re not.” I could not agree with Greenberg more, you are wasting valuable time and energy; invest more quality time up front.

4) Research the Interviewer:

Will it be one person or a panel of people? You may have things in common with your interviewer(s). You may have gone to the same college, or you may attend the same place of worship or your children may play on the same little league team. Find out what’s most important to them and then find the point of connection. You want to know going in so you can weave a story of authenticity, familiarity and similarity. What hasn’t change in the American workforce is people hire who they like and trust. Remember, your competition will look very similar to you on paper. Performing these tasks up-front will absolutely set you apart. I’ve heard many interviewers say, “I have a good feeling about that guy.” Those words are visceral and usually have very little to do with cold hard data. The world has changed but what will never change is employers hire talented, smart people that they like and trust.

5) You Have 30 Seconds:

Judgment is made within the first 30 seconds of the interview; it may not be fair, but that’s how long it takes the interviewer to size you up. When you walk in the door have a smile on your face, stand tall and look directly in the interviewer’s eyes, hold their gaze and tell them how absolutely enthusiastic you are about the position. In the US, research has proven that holding someone’s gaze establishes trust. When seated, sit up straight and don’t slouch; slouching makes you appear sloppy, tired, lazy and unprofessional. Over 80% of communication is nonverbal. Having good posture and smiling transmits the proper nonverbal messages: I’m trustworthy, confident, smart and likable.

6) Interview the Interviewer:

Prioritize a list of five to seven questions that indicate a long-term interest in the company. Let your questions be a reflection of the type of research you’ve done, so don’t ask simple questions that can easily be answered by reading the company’s website. Ask questions that reflect your IQ & EQ, think Albert Einstein meets CNN Hero. You may get answers that shock and surprise you and that lead you towards another company. Remember you are interviewing to get an “offer” not to take the job necessarily.

7) SSHH – Listen-Up:

When the interviewer is talking that person will be giving you direct information about the position you are going after, the company’s culture and what its expectations are. Let the interviewer talk 80% of the time and pay close attention. This will give you the opportunity to gain valuable insider knowledge to use at the time of the interview and during your follow-up. So listen-up and think on your feet, you’ll soon be hearing “You’re Hired.”

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